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November 2013

Disney Shows & Derek Webb: A Week Summary

photoCan I be honest?
Who are we kidding; I’m going to be anyways… Because this is my blog post, and I do what I want.

This week has sucked.

Between work, raising support, and interactions with people regarding our move, everything we do feels like it’s met with resistance.

Moving into the holiday season work has been crazy for both Kelly and me. Not to mention trying to get things wrapped up for a smooth transition for both of our employers come (hopefully) January. Both of our companies are in the midst of lots of changes and trying to honor our commitment to each of them while planning this huge transition of our own has been very tricky.

Raising support has been a painfully slow process, and often times stressful and discouraging. You spend a lot of time praying that people will catch the vision for something you feel passionately called to as you explain for the seemingly millionth time what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.

Things seem to come in waves, positive and negative reactions definitely fall into that category. And for whatever reason, this past week has had lots of people playing ‘devil’s advocate,’ and pointing out all of the potential problems with a move this size, being support based, and the difficult road ahead. Even Kelly’s dentist was questioning and critical of our choice. Ha!

My desire is for this blog to be a place where you all can journey with us, see the true reality of our experience. Sometimes it will be good, sometimes it will be ugly, but always it will be honest. We are so grateful for everyone who is praying and have committed financial support towards our desire to follow God’s leading. Even people being negative have offered us opportunities to think critically, and solidify our desires.


There were two things that popped into my head this week as we were struggling to make it to the weekend. The first was a song by Derek Webb that could be my own personal anthem: ‘I Hate Everything (But You)’

‘Cause It’s been one of those kinds of days/And I feel so out of place/And I hate everything, everything/I hate everything, but you…’

The second was a clip from a Disney Channel show from back in the day called Even Stevens, where the main character (Louis Stevens – played by Shia LaBeouf) is depressed and has dramatically locked himself in his room. A family member knocks, and this is Louis’ response:

Okay, so the whole world isn’t rotten, and I don’t hate everyone. But one of the things that Kelly and I have been learning through this process is the importance of celebrating the small things. Clinging to God’s faithfulness in the past knowing that even when our life feels out of control, God is just as faithful today as He was last week.

Thank you for being a part of this roller coaster with us,

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Expectant Vs. Expectations (Part 2)

(This is part two of a two-part blog post.  Read the first blog here.)

photoIs anyone good at waiting? If so, you can leave us some tips in the comment section below. For me, it’s not so much the waiting that is difficult; it’s the expectation of what is to come. The unknown. In part one of this blog I talked about the difference between expectations and living expectantly. Here I thought I’d share about how we have experienced living expectantly and battling our expectations as we prepare for the move to Liverpool.

A year and a half is how long Liverpool has been on our radar. A year and a half of waiting and preparation is an eternity in our instant gratification culture. There are so many things that I didn’t expect…

That we don’t want to leave Nashville. Although our time in Nashville played out much differently than we expected, there is no doubt in our mind, this was God’s plan all along. I dread packing up our cars, and driving away for the last time. Between community group, work friends, and our friends at Awaken Church in Clarksville (where I lead worship once a month), this city is home, and these people are our family.

Timing. Our lease in Nashville is up December 27th, originally we thought that would be perfect because we hoped to move to Liverpool during the first few weeks of January. With the amount of money we’ve been able to raise thus far, it has us wondering if we’ll hit our January move date target. So we’ve started asking other questions like, do we move back to Charlotte in January? Do we try and crash at a friends house? Does Kelly need to tell her employer, or continue working? The timing is difficult because there are so many things, and not many that are in our control.

Raising support his hard. Much harder than I thought it would be. Although I tend to be more pessimistic in general, I was pretty optimistic about raising support. I think some of that was influenced by sending out support letters for short-term $1500 missions trips in high school. Well, raising a full year’s worth of support is a little different than raising a weeks worth of support. It’s a slow process of wondering when and if all of the money will come in, and if you’re doing everything that you can to allow that to happen. We are so grateful for all of those who have given up until this point. And we’ll be posting at the beginning of next week to let you know our specific remaining needs.

People’s opinions. I always edit what I say about our move to Liverpool based on the individual asking the question. Are they a Christian? Have they done missions work? Do they live their lives a little differently than the typical? Are they involved in ministry? Then proceed sharing full story. On the flip side, if the answer is ‘no’ to those questions, then proceed with caution. The crazy thing is that, lots of people who I have dismissed as ‘they probably won’t get it’ have been the most encouraging and excited about this opportunity. And a few of the people that I thought ‘they will totally understand,’ after sharing, are the ones who give blank stares.

I have been trying to work on the balance of being prepared, and anticipating what’s next while still being present. I don’t want to be missing out on the ‘in between,’ and I don’t want to be disappointed when the future doesn’t fit my narrow parameters. It’s an odd tension, but such is life.

What’s crazy is that I can see how God is using our circumstances, and people in our lives to break apart my expectations; both in ways that I would see as positive and negative. I am constantly reminded, that His plans are so much better than mine. Thank you for being on this journey with us.

Releasing expectations,

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Words Are Weapons: My New Tattoo

photoIf we’ve spent any amount of time together, you’ve definitely heard me say: ‘I’m not trying to be mean, but…’. I started using that phrase around Junior High when people would give me horrified looks for telling the truth, shooting straight, and saying what was on my mind. I never really thought it was a problem – I want people to be that way with me, surely they feel the same. Well, not so much.

No doubt, there is a fine line between being harsh and being honest. And the older that I’ve gotten the more I’ve realized that being honest doesn’t mean that I have to say everything that comes to my mind. And if I want people to receive what I say, and not be offended it needs to be motivated out of a desire to love and serve them. Not just honesty, for honesty sake.

Scripture has some pretty amazing things to say about our word. Like they are an indication of what’s in our hearts (Matthew 12:34, Luke 6:45), our tongue is a restless evil full of deadly poison (James 3:8), and that death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21).

Ouch. You want to talk about honesty? I have the ability to give death or life just with my words? I’ve been experiencing the weight of words and honesty in two areas of my world recently…

First is in the conversations Kelly and I have been having with family, friends and strangers regarding our big move to Liverpool. We have left some conversations feeling like people have encouraged us, and breathed life and courage into our hearts. People that have caught the vision, pray for us (sometimes on the spot), want to support us financially and are cheerleading God’s call on our lives. And other people have left us feeling discouraged and emotionally drained. Thankfully, we’ve experienced more of the former than the latter.

And personally, within the context of worship leading and songwriting I see how the words that I use, and the words that I give people to sing shape their understanding of who God is, and how they communicate and experience Him. What an unbelievably serious responsibility. Something no person on a platform, or with a microphone should take lightly.

Our words have power. And I want to write songs and speak words that are arrows of truth soaked in love that pierce peoples hearts. So much so, that I paid someone to etch an arrow on my wrist with a needle as a permanent visible reminder. And because I’m sure you’re dying to see, here’s a picture of my new tattoo:
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One of the things we love about the team at Cornerstone Church is how honest and encouraging they have been to us. Not sugarcoating reality, but lovingly helping us navigate this transition. Being honest doesn’t mean being harsh. But being honest should always make people leave conversations having experienced life, not death.

Speaking life,

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Expectant Vs. Expectations (Part 1)

expectant vs expectations part 1
Yes, I realize that these words are synonyms and therefore almost identical. But these words play out in very different ways in my life.

I don’t know why, but I’ve always had very high expectations. That can be good, but it has also gotten me into trouble, because rarely can anyone bear up under the pressure of someone else’s expectations. I have had to make a conscious effort to manage my expectations of others and myself. And all of the time and energy spent preparing for this move to Liverpool has certainly afforded many opportunities to be intentional in that area.

I have been trying to let go of expectations while remaining expectant.

What I mean by that is, expectations are all about me: my ideas, my vision, and my desires. They are driven by what I think should happen, how and when it should happen, and how everyone should respond. My expectations are an unwavering, closed-fisted measure of success. And anything that doesn’t fall in line with my preconceived notions can leave me disappointed and frustrated.

But I’ve found that living expectantly is much different for me than living with expectations.

Being expectant is how I try to approach leading worship: it’s a balance of being prayerfully prepared, while realize that all of my preparation means nothing if the Holy Spirit is not the true worship leader of the service. I can pray through song choice, the words and Scripture that I’ll use, the big idea of the series and message, but the Holy Spirit can show up, and quickly lead us in a different direction than I expected.

Being expectant is being both prepared, and open-handed.

When it comes to leading worship, having expectations puts too much pressure on things that I can’t control. Will the sound system work like it should? Will I remember all of the transitions? Will the people sing and respond like I hope? Being expectant on the other hand, knows that I can lead confidently knowing that I have put in the necessary preparation but it’s not about me. These aren’t my people, this isn’t my set list, and this isn’t my church. I just get to be a part of something that God is doing. How amazingly freeing!

In part two of this blog, I’ll write about how the contrast of living expectantly and with expectations has appeared in the most recent weeks and months. So I guess you’ll just have to live expectantly for that post 😉

Thanks for being on this journey with us,

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